Survivors of childhood trauma, what grounds you? What puts you in your body, gives you joy, reaffirms your strength? It changes for me, depending on the day, the mood, the weather within and without. It suddenly occurred to me that I needed a pair of ballet shoes. When I was young, my dance teacher demanded our ballet slippers be tight, too tight. They hurt until they broke. The good thing about being an adult is that you can choose your own shoes.