Recovering from trauma, I use hatred not as a vehicle for hurting others, but as a vehicle for changing myself, for changing the world. Eventually, hatred will be displaced by joy and curiosity.

I think too much about goodness. Like any child I was taught that being good was ideal, “good” was what you should aspire too, “good” was...

Even before I confronted death at age 15, I had tastes, desires, and a temperament that did not fit. I danced, and sang, and immersed...

The film, Promising Young Woman, by Emerald Fennell, gives all traumatized people, particularly women, an incredible gift: it does the...

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are...

I went to college unsure of myself. I had been driven underground by my own family, told again and again I was wrong, ugly, and stupid,...

The truth: some of us don’t survive. When I consider what I have suffered at the hands of the ignorant, the brutal, or the narcissistic,...